8 Tips for Getting Through the Holidays

The holidays can be a tough time of year for a lot of different reasons. For 2SLGBTQIA+ folks, they can be exhausting and triggering, even if our families are somewhat supportive. Here’s a few tips on how you can get through the next few weeks.

1. Do something that brings you joy

Take some time to focus on what brings you joy, whether that’s holiday related or not. Watch your favourite movie, listen to a podcast on queer history, read a book, do some arts and crafts, spend some time outside, or whatever it is you love to do but may not always make time for.

2. Consider your boundaries

With more and more 2SLGBTQIA+ topics in the news, there may be uncomfortable conversations happening around you. Remember, you don’t need to be the spokesperson for all 2SLGBTQIA+ people and you don’t need to talk about anything you’re uncomfortable sharing.

3. Communicate your boundaries

This can look like:
“I’d rather not talk about that right now.”
“I won’t be going to [place of worship] with you but I’ll see you after.”
“I go by [name] and my pronouns are...”

4. Connect with your chosen family

There’s a lot of emphasis put on family events during the holidays. Chosen family is just as important though. Unfortunately, not everyone’s chosen family is close by. Hopping on a video call for a super queer virtual hangout can be a welcome reprieve, especially if you feel like you can’t be yourself around your family.

5. Remember it’s okay to say no

It can be difficult to decline invitations sometimes. You don’t want to disappoint anyone but at the same time you’re dreading being around certain people or just don’t have the energy. Remember, you’re under no obligation to attend events that make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

6. Set a reminder on your phone

Sometimes it can be helpful to think of an exit strategy when you’re feeling unsure about an event. Try setting a reminder on your phone so you don’t end up staying longer than you wanted to. This way you still get to see the people you wanted to connect with, without staying until you’re exhausted.

7. Lean on your community

There are allies and queer folks who care about you. Our Rainbow Conversations Facebook group is a private space where you can get peer support from folks who probably understand what you’re experiencing.

8. Find support if you need it

While getting support from other queer folks and allies can be helpful, sometimes we need to reach out for support from trained mental health professionals. If you’re struggling, you can find a few different options on the Find Support page here on our website.